Signs of an abusive man while dating
This means you’re in the presence of someone who does not respect your right to make your own choices and maintain your boundaries or values. This type of behavior may not come out until months into a relationship, but sometimes abusers can be physically aggressive with you just a few dates in.
Grabbing you too harshly, pushing you during an argument or conflict, violating your personal boundaries in any way, pressuring you for sex, touching you inappropriately without consent is a red flag that must be heeded.
It might seem incredible that someone is so besotted with you after just one date, but it’s actually a red flag for dubious behavior and unwarranted attachment.
It’s not normal to be in contact with someone 24/7 especially if you’ve only gone on a couple of dates with them.
As they learn more about you, they are investigating your weak spots and catering their comments towards what they know will hurt you the most.
Knowing you’re triggered by their comments gives them a sadistic sense of satisfaction that alleviates their secret sense of inferiority and strokes their delusions of grandeur, control and aptitude.
Since sarcasm isn’t often considered “abusive” by society, abusers use it as a way to escape accountability for their harsh, condescending tone and belittling behavior.
They become more and more condescending in their approach to sarcasm over the course of the relationship – what was once a “playful” sarcastic comment now becomes frequent emotional terrorism that questions your right to have an opinion that challenges theirs.
This form of contact is perfect for abusers to “check in” with you to see what you are up to, to make sure that you are suitably “hooked” to their attention, and is a form of “idealization” which will place you on a pedestal that at first, seems irresistible.Sarcasm is one of the mighty weapons in an abuser’s arsenal.Emotional predators enjoy invalidating your thoughts, opinions and emotions by making frequent sarcastic remarks that shame you into never questioning them again.Even if the abuser idealizes you quite convincingly in the early stages of dating, you may witness his or her behavior towards others as a red flag of future behavior.For example, is he or she rude to the waiter or waitress on your date?
